Preparing Your Kid Or Teen for Counseling

If parents mention therapy, it might hurt their child’s self-esteem and make them even more anxious. How should one go about it?

Some kids and teens feel embarrassed about going to therapy, but nine times out of ten they become more comfortable with it after the initial session.

How can a parent prepare their child for the first session?

I see this come up more for teens, especially for teenagers who don't have many friends already in counseling. So on the parent side, I recommend just telling your teen (or hesitant child) that counseling is something a lot of people do, and it's usually just an opportunity to build tools and get stuff off their chest. I would also encourage parents to use the "eat your vegetables" rule - try it out for two or three sessions, and then your teen gets to decide from there.

I’ve found, though, that younger children are super excited to go to counseling because they view it as an opportunity to play and hang out one-on-one with a safe grown up, and through counseling they learn the skills and tools needed to help manage their anxiety.

What information is good to share with them if they are worried or reluctant?

It's also helpful to review confidentiality, and how the therapist will keep information private unless it's info about hurting themselves, hurting someone else, or someone hurting them. Otherwise, the specifics will stay private (that way, your teen feels comfortable telling me how much they dislike your parenting style without being worried that I'll go and tell on them, AND I have an opportunity to help them process this while giving you separate parenting suggestions on our end).

More info on what sessions look like can be found right here: What Is Counseling Like?

It's all a journey...

It's also important to let them know that counseling is a process, so it might take a few times for that therapist to feel like a good fit - but, if that therapist doesn't feel like they're super helpful, maybe they should try meeting with someone else to see if that works better. That therapeutic fit is crucial.


Curious to hear more about counseling for you or your child? Compassionate Counseling St. Louis provides specialized anxiety and anger management therapy for kids, teens, and college students. We work in Clayton, MO and serve kids, teens, and college students throughout St. Louis City, St. Louis County, Ladue, University City, Town and Country, Webster Groves, Creve Coeur, Kirkwood, Richmond Heights, and Brentwood. You can set up your free phone screening to see if we’re a good fit for your needs right on our website.

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