Tips for Teens: How to Share About a Loss

At one point or another, everyone will experience a loss or death - and some of us experience this in high school or college. So how do you deal with the aftermath?

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Many have heard of "the stages of grief"- denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance. However it's crucial to remember that this isn't a linear progression. You may move through stages in a different order. You may circle back. All of these feelings are acceptable, but allow yourself to recognize that there isn't a correct way or correct order to go through the aftermath of a death or loss in your life. 

Social media

You'll also want to weigh what you share on social media. Ask yourself if you're ready to talk about the death in your life before posting, or if you'd like people outside of your immediate circle to have access to this info. At the same time, it can also be helpful to reach out to others - so consider the pros and cons. 

Reaching out

Ask yourself, "Who's in my circle?" Who is on your side? Who can you go to for support on other issues?

Many of us immediately go to our moms, or friends, but there may be other outlets available to you in addition to these go-to's. 

And, you may find yourself unaccountably opening up to someone you barely know, just because your feelings have reached that tipping point. It's normal and healthy, and a sign that you're ready to process further with someone else.

Have you recently experienced a loss or death and you're considering if counseling is the best next step? Kelsey specializes in trauma-informed anxiety and anger management, and works extensively with teens and college students. You can reach her at compassionatecounselingstl@gmail.com. Her office is located in Webster Groves.